Ending a Chapter- Decision to Close

I've written many times about the need for open foster homes and how I hoped our story would inspire even one family to open their home to the possibility. It has been something we have been involved in now for seven years, opening our home to ten children and adopting three. Our years as foster parents has been tough at times, but always a blessing. We've rearranged beds and car seats to accommodate different configurations, we've held on to clothes and toys 'just in case'. But, after much prayer and deliberation, and with a somewhat heavy heart, we have decided it's time to close our home, and move forward with our four little miracles.

We are amazed daily by the family God bound together here, and will always be grateful we chose this path. Adoption is a huge part of our story, and although it's not the focus, we will always share the gift it has been with our children, and anyone who asks, understanding how beautiful it is, and knowing it is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about.

The big boys are just beginning to gain an understanding of what it means that they were adopted. I know it will be a journey for them as they mature, and their understanding deepens and changes, but knowing it is a gift ,and not a mistake, is something I hope we can always help them see.

While we will talk with them anytime they bring it up, or ask questions (which is so rare at this point), it is overall a fact that goes forgotten within our four walls. Especially when we see how similar they all are, to each other and to Scott and I!

Elijah is a perfect blend of our older two, adopted sons.... He can be as completely wild and on the go as Timothy and as mild mannered and cuddly as Mason. Sophia and Mason look so much alike with their adorable button noses, and all four are fair skinned, redheaded beauties, just like their daddy!

When people first learn that three of them are adopted it's so funny to see them try to mentally figure out which three!! Usually they are wrong, which is fine with me. There need be no distinction anyways. They are brothers and sister and they are ours. Firmly, completely and finally. Nothing else matters.

Their bond is more and more beautiful all the time, even when many days are spent breaking up silly arguments and officiating scuffs. I see them in between those moments helping each other, encouraging each other, cuddling, playing, imagining, talking.... it's hopeful for us to see as they grow in love for each other.

So, I guess my point is, while this blog started as a way to share our foster/adoption journey and how God brought and knit our family together, the story is in no way over. Every day is a new challenge, a new love, a new gift. I will continue writing about what God has done, and is doing, en la Casa Akin, so long as He gives me stories to share.

As always, if opening your home to foster or adopt is something on your mind or heart, don't wait. Call your local DCBS today and get started. You won't regret it. And if you haven't read our story, I hope you will.      /makingmemommy/2014/10/getting-started.html